by Galway Player

Welcome to the wonderful world of the Galway Player, Ireland’s top male dating expert. I’m here to tell it like it is, because as we all know women love an honest man. I’ll share my expertise and impart my wisdom, using my observations and knowledge to educate and empower the males of society. Read on so I can enlighten you about the ugly truth of dating so you don’t end up doing ugly birds!

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times; it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness. I often wonder if Dickens was looking back to the French Revolution, or, if indeed, he was making a bold prediction about dating in the 21st century. We are blessed with incredible technology in every walk of life, all designed to making our lives easier and better, yet when it comes to dating, these advances have simultaneously made dating easier and trickier. Breaking up is never a pleasant experience and now, thanks to social media, it’s become even more testing and harder to move on.

Once upon a time, burning a few photos and cinema ticket stubs was enough to cleanse the soul and mend a broken heart. Now you need a degree in software engineering and the stealth of  the SAS to subtly, digitally conceal your dirty digital linen. Changing your relationships status on Facebook is now one of some people’s biggest concerns when they curl up and sheepishly gawk at their future….alone. Imagine the great love stories if they had access to social media, If Noah’s letters were anything to go by in The Notebook, can you imagine the nonsense he’d have been posting on his wall.  Or when Sally warned Harry to: “try and find a way of not expressing every feeling you have, every moment that you have them” imagine if he was on Twitter, the film would be renamed When Sally Unfollowed Harry.

Because our brains are wired from the beginning for bonding, breakups batter us biologically. Initially, says Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, everyone reacts to rejection like a drug user going through withdrawal. Given that there’s a touch of a stalker in all of us, social media feeds this addiction. Scanning his pictures to see who he’s chatting to or where he’s been photographed, checking her timeline to see how she’s coping, it’s simply too easy and not good for you.

You can’t move on if you don’t let go, does that mean you shun all modern technology? Absolutely not. But, know the post that’s one too many.